Sensory
When You Want To Integrate Body Stuff But Can’t
How do you follow the advice to integrate sensory awareness when you’re not getting info from your body?
Masking
Unmasking My Wardrobe Color Choices
I recently found another way I’ve been masking without realizing it. Here’s me talking through how I realized this and let this mask drop away.
Social
How Much Is It Okay to Go Out of My Way for Others?
As you’re learning to establish healthier relationships and boundaries, the question comes up, “How much is it healthy to do things for others that use my own energy and effort?”
Autism
How to Prevent Meltdowns
Meltdowns are no fun, but it is possible to avoid them. Here’s a framework for how.
Sensory
When You Start Feeling Sensory Stuff and It’s All More Annoying, Here’s What to Do Next
A common experience with later identified Autistics who start figuring out all the sensory stuff that they’ve been shutting out, is that instead of things getting better, everything is more annoying.
Anxiety
On Anxiety, Nuance, and Trusting Yourself
Sometimes the advice we get creates more problems than solutions. Here are a few thoughts on some anxiety advice I heard, and on developing trust in yourself.
Personal Growth
Are Big Life Changes Worth It?
Are they worth it? A question that new clients (who want to make changes in their life but it’s also scary) sometimes ask me is,
Acceptance
What is Internalized Ableism?
Here are a couple examples of internalized ableism, and a few thoughts exploring what ableism is, how it gets so ingrained, and what the way out may be.
Social
Why “It’s Just A Label” Hurts
There’s so much history and personal experience surrounding diagnoses, and they’re more complicated than “just labels.”
Coaching
FAQs About Coaching with Heather
Common questions about Heather’s style of life coaching with other adult Autistics to build their own autism-positive life.
Acceptance
You Don’t Need To Be Farther Along Than You Are
In our society, we get a lot of messages that once you figure out something, you need to go put it into practice. But that’s skipping a critical step.
Strategies
Why NOT Get the Worst Over With First
Have you heard the saying, “eat the worst first and save the best for last”? I think it’s fundamentally flawed. Here’s why, and what I’ve found works better.
