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To be able to work through a problem you’re facing, you need to start questioning what the issue is in a new way.
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Coaching with Heather
Hi, I'm Heather, here's what I do
FAQs About Coaching with Heather
Coaching with Heather: FAQs on goals and structure
Coaching with Heather: more FAQs
Sensory Moments Intro
Autistic Burnout Recovery Course Now Available!
Autistic Burnout Recovery
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Burnout means unreasonable demands #autisticburnout #burnout #burnoutrecovery 
Your best is not… #actuallyautistic #autisticburnout
Before personal growth is possible… #actuallyautistic #autisticburnout #personalgrowth
You never have to do more than you’re OK with #actuallyautistic #autisticburnout #burnoutrecovery
Pretending not to be autistic drains energy
This isn't CBT. It's not all in your head.
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Coachable Topics
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When You Hate Being Perceived
When I make myself do things I don’t want to #autisticburnout #autisticmasking #audhd #beingmyself
“I’m bad at peopling” is a story I no longer believe #actuallyautistic #antianxiety #adultautistic
How overwhelm is useful #autisticburnout #overwhelm #overwhelmed #retreatyourself #hiding #audhd
When The Thing You Can’t Do Is The Thing You Must Do
Your adults didn’t know better #adulting #intergenerationaltrauma #audhd #traumarecovery
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Your Later Identified Autism Journey
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Top 20 Signs You Might Be Masking Your Autism
I upset others when I mask less: Learning the difference between masking and sensitivity
Why are things more annoying in autistic self-discovery?
When You Hate Being Perceived
Finding Your Autistic Way Is Like Being Lost In The Woods
What to Expect in the Later Identified Autism Journey
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Advocacy and Empowerment
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Instead of "I can't," say this…
The Chrysalis of Autism Discovery
The “becoming normal” project didn’t work #actuallyautistic #autismacceptance #autismadvocate
Unmasking Strategies for Safety
How to change the system #actuallyautistic #betterlife #changethesystem #betterworld
Productive failure #autismadvocate #burnoutrecovery #shorts
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An Autism-Positive Life
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Your best is not… #actuallyautistic #autisticburnout
On Trying to be Normal
A functional autistic life 
(Re)Building Self Trust After You Learned You're Autistic
Letting Go of the Shame of Avoiding People
Can’t express your needs?
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Sensory Friendly Living
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There is no such thing as oversensitive #autistic #sensoryissues #hsp #highlysensitive #autism
When You Start Feeling Sensory Stuff and It's All More Annoying, Here's What to Do Next
Autistic nervous systems get overloaded more quickly #actuallyautistic #burnedout 
Meltdowns are not tantrums. How to hack them. #actuallyautistic #burnedout #neurotribes 
Denying our experience disconnects us from important information
I can’t read and listen to music 
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Anti-Anxiety Work
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When You Hate Being Perceived
Anxiety Reduction for Neurodivergent Humans
This isn't CBT. It's not all in your head.
This Assumption Leads to Autistic Anxiety
Anxiety science metaphors #anxietyrelief #autisticburnout #anxiety #actuallyautistic #shorts
I Said No: How I Dealt with Anxiety Waiting for a Backlash
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Healthy Communication
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“I’m bad at peopling” is a story I no longer believe #actuallyautistic #antianxiety #adultautistic
Meet someone where they are#advocate #audhd #personalgrowth #peopleing #relationshipgoals
Are healthy relationships scary? #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice
How To Tell If People Really Want Honesty, Part 1
How To Tell If People Really Want Honesty, Part 2
Why You Can't Get Your Needs Met By Setting Boundaries
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Social Explanations
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Instead of "I can't," say this…
The Chrysalis of Autism Discovery
The “becoming normal” project didn’t work #actuallyautistic #autismacceptance #autismadvocate
Unmasking Strategies for Safety
How to change the system #actuallyautistic #betterlife #changethesystem #betterworld
Productive failure #autismadvocate #burnoutrecovery #shorts
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Unmasking Autism
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Top 20 Signs You Might Be Masking Your Autism
I upset others when I mask less: Learning the difference between masking and sensitivity
When You Hate Being Perceived
Healthy and Unhealthy Autistic Unmasking #actuallyautistic #autisticmasking #autismadvocate
When I make myself do things I don’t want to #autisticburnout #autisticmasking #audhd #beingmyself
Unmasking Strategies for Safety
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Workshop Recordings
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How to Recover from Autistic Burnout
The 5 Most Overlooked (and Common) Autistic Stressors
Autistic Energy Management
Alternative, Sustainable Income Sources for Autistics and AuDHDers
What to Expect in the Later Identified Autism Journey
Unmasking Strategies for Safety
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